Thursday, December 18, 2008

Better Single Than Sorry

I recently finished reading a book called "Better Single Than Sorry" by Jen Schefft. It's a great read. Jen first appeared on the bachelor a few years ago and ended up winning with a proposal by the wealthy heir to Firestone tires. She ended up breaking off the engagement a few months down the road because she wasn't happy. Later she appeared on the show The Bachelorette and turned down two proposals. She got a lot of grief for it but she what she wanted to demonstrate in her book that she wasn't going to settle for anything less than happiness and she'd rather be single than sorry. I totally agree!

Although the book was great, the point of my entry is not to do a book review. I'm 25 and single...yay! Of course, I would like to be married one day but I'm also not willing to settle for anything less than I deserve. I have a lot of goals and dreams and I'm not about to stop them just because a guy is in my life. I'm willing to compromise but I don't think it's fair I sacrifice what I want in life for a man. If the guy is right for me, he'll help me and support me in my goals. Most of my close friends are married and I have seen a lot of the women make too many sacrifices for their husbands and families. I think it's very noble to sacrifice and serve, but not at the cost of your own personal happiness. Many of my friends rushed into marriage, some of them it worked out and some are unhappy and wishing they did more before they got married. When I finally cross the marriage path in my life, I know I have accomplished a lot and I will be ready to settle down.

Why am I mentioning all of this? A recent event happened to really make me ponder on my singlehood. Someone close to me was recently married and followed one of her dreams. It seemed like all was coming together for her and she was very happy. Unfortunately, her husband could not be supportive of her dream and being the noble woman she is, she is putting her dreams on hold for him. Many women do this and it's not necessarily bad, it's just sad to see. I know she's sad and doesn't want to give up on what she started but she is doing it because her man isn't willing to give. I've had a lot of conversations with friends lately and it seems that too many women sacrifice what they want for men. I'm so happy to know that I'm single and in a position where I don't have to put my happiness on hold. It breaks my heart to see my friend have to put her dreams aside. It's just one more reason I'm thankful to be single. It truly is better to be single than sorry (not that my friend is sorry, but I think she would be happier if things worked out different and her man was more supportive).

3 comments:

Taylor's said...

Ditto! I am so glad I waited to marry the man of my dreams; I never put anything aside and I feel great about it and I have tons of memories of being single and loving it!

k. lee said...

Anytime you want to move to France and open our little shop, let me know. ;) Every season of our life can be full...so glad you can appreciate that. I'll have to peruse Jen's book! You're the greatest, lady!

McKenna, Daniel and Elise said...

I found your blog, yea! Happy New Year!
-McKenna